AIM Conversation with Katie; early morning of 11 August 2005
by V.E. on August 11th, 2005
filed under favorite, ladyamedeus, personal, thoughts
ME: yes
ME: 
HER: I’m glad you’re still masterin’ the soapbox, too.
ME: he took me off his friends list
ME: sigh
HER: jeez
ME: thanks
ME:
HER: what happened between you two?
HER: i thought you guys used to be close
HER: (of course you don’t have to explain if you don’t want to)
ME: I’m actually writing a post about that
ME:
ME: we did used to be
… …
ME: okay, can you check my LJ again and let me know if what I said is respectful-ish? (http://www.livejournal.com/users/ladyamedeus/18638.html)
HER: okay hang on, still checking all the links and posts you put in there
ME: okay
HER: I just posted a comment
HER: you gonna read it?
ME: yes
ME: thank you:-)
HER: What do you mean, the vocal minority really is a minority?
ME: well, he has responded to a lot of my posts
ME: but I know that not everyone thinks that way, but often they don’t say anything
HER: huh
ME: which is fine, it’s their prerogative
HER: okay, i see
ME: but after hearing “stop with all the soapboxing” all the time, it’s kind of disheartening
HER: or, i think i see…
HER: yeah.
HER: well, that was just kind of a mean-spirited thing for him to say.
HER: I don’t see why he should have a problem with “soapboxing”
ME: well, honestly, I can never really tell when he’s being serious and when he’s just being sarcastic
ME: the comment that really hurt me was this one:
HER: ?
ME: “Hey, my mood was ‘Cheerful’… and, frankly, someone with your emotional propensities should have nothing to say about mine.” (http://www.livejournal.com/users/lazarus28/62098.html)
HER: …yeah. that’s a VERY cruel thing to say.
HER: Yeah… I imagine since you’ve confided a lot in him, it made it seriously hard to trust him after seeing him say that
… …
HER: i know it can be a really staggering feeling when someone says something like that, especially after you’ve entrusted them with a lot… i’m pretty mad at justin, too, for saying that comment.
ME: my first reaction was kind of like “What the fuck is THAT supposed to mean?”
HER: sigh… seriously
HER: he’s probably struggling with his own issues, and consequently lashing out at you
ME: yea, at least, I HOPE that’s what it is
ME: I mean, I hope he’s not just a jerk
HER: I think a big part of it is he feels like a lot has changed between you guys
HER: and he feels less close to you for some reason, and he resents that.
HER: he gets a high off of being one of those guys who’s everyone’s messiah
ME: yea
ME: I’ve noticed that
HER: i think you’re making the right move though.
HER: i just hope it’s not too disappointing, since it might kind of be like losing a friend
ME: his comments? or him?
HER: …
HER: maybe i misunderstood…. i guess what you’re saying is although you’ve de-friended each other on LJ, you’re still planning to remain friends with him?
ME: well, sort of
ME: I mean, I’m not going to pursue the friendship, but if he decides he’s missing out (which he is), then I think I’ll probably give him another chance.
ME: a wary chance, but a chance nonetheless
HER: a wary chance?
HER: so, friendly behavior, but no sensitive information?
ME: yes
HER: Wise.
I feel a lot better now. Thank you, Katie.
Editors
by V.E. on August 11th, 2005
filed under ladyamedeus, writing
http://www.anotherealm.com/prededitors/pubagent.htm
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http://www.lethal5.com/fiction-0-18.html (from mirist)
Sigh; Justin drama
by V.E. on August 11th, 2005
filed under ladyamedeus, personal
Okay, so it’s official. Justin and I have mutually taken each other off of our respective friends lists (see the comments under this post). It’s kind of sad, actually, ’cause I considered him a really good friend at one time. As Bobby’s said, he can be such an awesome guy, but those times are few and far between. I’m not going to bad-mouth him, but I am tired of his words toward me and my friends (see ‘Revoked’, the comments under his Harry Potter post, and his reply to MY reply to Katie’s post for a sampling).
Now, granted, I AM on the ‘soapbox’ a lot; I know this. And if you’ve been following some of my replies and things, I probably HAVE come off as harsh at times. That was/is not the intention at all. I only write harshly in reply to something that makes me feel like I’m being attacked. I mean, if he’s a jerk all the time, how can he NOT expect me to respond in kind? I’m generally a likable young woman, and I don’t like it when someone insists on being… well, an asshole… especially when I’ve extended my friendship to that person more than once. Even more when I’ve confided in that person, like I have with Justin. I deserve more respect than that.
I’m not saying that everyone should like me, or even that most people should. But the people who ARE my friends have gotta take me as I am. I understand that I’m not even close to perfect and I need improvement just as much as the next guy. I don’t mind CONSTRUCTIVE criticism at all. In fact, I WANT constructive criticism. I mean, how will I know if I’m annoying you to death if you never tell me, right? But COME ON. Plain criticism? NOT the way to get through to me.
I don’t really know what happened between Justin and me. Maybe college (or something else) changed him; maybe I changed. I don’t know, but I know that I don’t like being treated as a sex object and put down at every turn. It’s just not on my agenda.
Never ever will I reliquish the Soapbox.
by V.E. on August 11th, 2005
filed under favorite, ladyamedeus, personal, politics
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lazarus28Justin: Viannah, I’m taking away your soapbox privileges. All of them. So get off of it. Now.
octaveleapKatie: *holds up a sign* FREE VIANNAH!
zekorBobby: Soapbox forever!
To Katie and Bobby: I love you forever and ever and ever!
To Justin: You’re a jerk to everyone I know, including me. How would you like it if I took away your jerk privileges?
Popular Interests and POCKY!
by V.E. on August 11th, 2005
filed under ladyamedeus, quizzes/surveys
Mikey wins the “most interesting friend” contest! And what’s with the Normality scale thing? Over 100% normal? Yeah, right.
| You Are Milk Pocky |
 Your attitude: caring and charming Smooth and silky… invigorating and natural. You are like comfort food for the soul. |
