A letter sent to Kappa Beta Gamma this evening
by V.E. on December 16th, 2006
filed under ladyamedeus, school, thoughts
To my dearest sisters in Kappa:
After serious deliberation, I have decided to become inactive next semester
First, I lack the time and funds I need to commit to the sorority, and which you all deserve from me as a good sister. Next semester I will be taking three classes, an independent study, working both on and off campus, and will be training to become an EMT (emergency medical technician) in the evenings on weekdays. I have always had trouble with finances, and I know next semester will be even tighter than before. I will be paying for my EMT class, rent and utilities for my apartment, and have to cover groceries (so I can eat!) as well.
Second, I love you all, but I hate the tension I felt when I walked into most chapter meetings this semester. I suppose I may’ve been projecting somewhat, but I was really uncomfortable with the animosity between many of the sisters. It wasn’t very giving, loving, or sister-like, and that really bothered me. Since I joined the sorority, there has been negativity and drama every semester, even when the leadership tries to diffuse it or work through it. I don’t want to have to deal with something like that again during my last semester here at F&M. I want my memories of Kappa to be pleasant ones.
Third, and this may be counter to tradition but… I don’t really want a little sister. I already have a little sister in my younger sibling, Katy. I know taking a little is both a monetary and time commitment, and, as I mentioned already, I really don’t have those resources to spare. My big sister, Shahed H———-, was a founder—but not particularly enthused to have me as her little sister when I pledged. We were friends and sisters, but there was no special bond that I feel big and little sisters should share. I fear that if I take a little, I will act the same towards her as Shahed did with me. I have not discussed this with Shahed, and she may be angry or hurt that I don’t want to continue our family line. But, she had a twin sister in Stephanie W—– (also a founder), and her half of the line is truly thriving (as it should!), so I don’t feel it as necessary for me to “do my family line duty†and take a little as I would otherwise.
Kappa has truly blessed my college years, but I need to move on, and I think this is a good time for me to do so. I’m at a crossroads (an early mid-life crisis, maybe? I don’t know) and I need to step back and figure out what I want to do with my life. Thank you for all that you have done for me. You are, and always will be, my sisters. Have a great spring semester, and I look forward to hearing about the incoming Theta class!
Sincerely,
Viannah E. Duncan ‘07
Gamma class
what time did you send this? I didn’t receive it. In any case, I will miss you! But it’s good we still have College Communications.