Honestly, I’ve never dated a black person. I’m not opposed to it, but I’ve almost never been in a situation with a person of color that presented itself as “I like you; you like me; maybe we can work something out” in regards to dating. I don’t know if that’s because I’ve never looked for that kind of situation or I just misread the signals or what, but I’ve never dated a black person.
Some part of me thinks it’s a culture thing, but I’ve never really sat down to think about what “black culture” is, either. Or what my culture is in comparison to other cultures, for that matter. If black dating is anything like the world of “white dating” (if there is such a thing), I know it’s gotta be tough… Because any kind of dating is tough. It’s like you’re interviewing for a job but worse because, if you’re rejected, it’s not just your resume that’s being rejected—it really is you.
I started thinking about it seriously, though, and I started to wonder: why is it “black dating” and not just “dating”? I think it’s because the default (at least in the U.S.) is white (cisgendered heterosexual male), so anything that’s not white has to be defined to make it clear. Interesting. Food for thought, I guess.