29 Days of Truth 18

Day 18: Your views on gay marriage.

Okay, so here’s the thing about “gay marriage”… If I was asked offhand how I felt about it, and I didn’t have time to explain (or I didn’t want to), I’d say something like: I think people should be able to marry whomever they please, man or woman or whatever.

However, here’s what I really think, and it’s unpopular opinion time. I don’t believe any marriage is good. Marriage is a horrible, patriarchal institution that should be dismantled completely; I think that no one should get married. “Gay marriage” may open the door to other kinds of non-traditional (that is, one-man-and-one-woman) marriage—or, heaven forbid, no marriage at all—and that’s a good thing.

I’m not saying people shouldn’t have relationships; relationships can be healthy (or not) in their own rights. I’m just saying that marriage (and, by extension, weddings) is a broken, ancient system that should be chucked in the trash.

Just think about it. Why should my relationship with my best friend be more important than my relationship to my sister? Or my lover more important than my best friend? Or, what if I was in love with two people at the same time? A marriage would no doubt mess up the dynamic because, at least at this point in time, it’s not possible to have a marriage between three people. Broadening the definition of who may marry whom, as “gay marriage” advocates are doing, is like splashing a brand new coat of paint on a car with no engine. It’s the right idea (to be more inclusive), but it’s the wrong system. No matter how pretty the car looks, it’s still not going to start.

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Viannah E. Duncan

Viannah E. Duncan is a writer and activist hailing originally from Los Angeles. She lives outside of Baltimore, Maryland, and holds an MFA in Creative Writing from Wilkes University. She has a cat, Cleo.

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