Making a Difference

Or: Becoming an Activist For Your Cause
by Stuart Bechman

People often come across issues which are of importance to them, which they want to take a stand on one side or the other. This is encouraged in our democratic society – it is often how progress is made in our society. But people then often ask the question, ‘How Can I Help?’ It’s asked cautiously, because people have to balance their support of an issue with all of the other aspects of their lives as well as with their own skills and resources. Many don’t even ask the prior question because they are afraid by doing so, they’ll commit themselves to something far beyond what they’re willing or able to do. When you’re around passionate people who are struggling to make a difference and you express your tacit support, you can often feel their strong desire to pull you into their cause to the greatest extent possible.

It is a sad fact that the more impact you wish to make, the more effort it will take. This is the tradeoff that most would-be supporters face in deciding to support a cause. But the good news is that no effort is wasted or pointless – many, many causes have been significantly furthered by just a few people spending a few minutes a day letting others know of their support for these causes. The single largest factor in a cause being realized is the number of people who are willing to stand up and make their voice known, over and beyond any other activity or effort.

This list is an answer to those who ask ‘How Can I Help?’, ranked from the least visible impact & effort to the most visible impact & effort. Again, even though some of these efforts seem quite small, every one of these efforts can make a contribution and provide some impact for your cause.

  • Talk with those who agree with your viewpoint and offer a sounding-board for each other, reinforcing and strengthening your viewpoints.
  • Talk to others who may not be aware of your viewpoint. Let them know of your viewpoint and of others who share it, what they’re doing.
  • Talk to others who you know disagree with your viewpoint. Engage in persuasive (but not confrontational) conversation to test your and their views against the other. See how well your viewpoint stands against theirs.
  • Read/Listen to the media on a regular basis to learn about recent developments regarding the causes you support.
  • Do research to discover organizations which support your viewpoint or cause, using the public library, an Internet Browser, or following up on authors and media sources who have written articles which support your viewpoint. Educate yourself by learning what these organizations know and have done about your cause.
  • Provide a one-time contribution to any of these organizations which advocate your viewpoint.
  • Prepare a database / card file of all organizations you discover that support your cause, including contact person, address and phone numbers, and any other related information such as clippings of their advocacy efforts. Use such acquired information to strengthen your viewpoint.
  • Prepare a database / card file of all organizations you discover that oppose your cause, including contact person, address and phone numbers, and any other related information such as clippings of their advocacy efforts. Use such acquired information to test your viewpoint.
  • Read/Listen to the media on a regular basis to study its presentation of the causes you support. Write a response to any articles or shows which seem to disagree with your viewpoint. Set a periodic personal goal to reach, say, two letters/month.
  • Listen to talk shows which touch on issues of concern to you. Participate on a call-in basis to share your viewpoint. Set a periodic personal goal to reach, say, two call-in shows/month.
  • Regularly support organizations which advocate your viewpoint.  Become a member if you can afford it; or contribute money, time, or other resources you may have to offer.
  • Pay attention to local political efforts that appear opposed to your viewpoint. Make your opposing viewpoint known in these efforts to any/all government officials privy to these efforts through a letter, a phone call, or personal appearance.
  • Purchase ‘Gift’ memberships to the organizations that you support for local libraries and/or government officials so that they are kept apprised of the efforts and information being promulgated by the organizations you support.
  • Participate regularly in local discussion groups that support your viewpoint. Contribute your ideas and opinions to these groups as often as you can.
  • Support political candidates who strongly identify with your viewpoint, through money, time, or other resources.
  • Write an article advocating your cause and submit it to a publication which supports that cause.
  • Write an article advocating your cause and submit it to a publication which is neutral to that cause.
  • Make a public commitment to regularly contribute in some way to an organization which supports your cause.
  • Propose a project which you believe will further your cause and present it to others who may support your project.
  • Take an advisory role in one of the organizations that supports your cause.
  • Recruit another to join and support one of the organizations that supports your cause.
  • Participate in a project sponsored by another.
  • Offer to lead your (or someone else’s) project to bring it to fruition.
  • Find a friendly public forum which is interested in and supportive of your viewpoint. Speak on behalf of your cause in this forum.
  • Find a neutral public forum which will allow you to voice your viewpoint. Speak on behalf of your cause in this forum.
  • Lobby/campaign for money and/or resources for an organization that supports your viewpoint.
  • Take a leadership role in one of the organizations that supports your cause.

Huh. Never would’a thought…

This article is cool:

‘Whore College’ Offers Hands-On Training
By LISA LEFF, Associated Press Writer
Friday, May 6, 2005
(05-06) 14:40 PDT SAN FRANCISCO, (AP) —

It’s higher education of the horizontal variety. About 25 sex workers went to a college of sorts, sitting through lectures on effective marketing, stress reduction and condom-application skills.

“We are still illegal,” instructor Kimberlee Cline said before her 20-minute demonstration. “If we want to be treated as business professionals, we need to act ethically within the industry.”

Other cities, including Tucson, Ariz., Portland, Ore., Montreal and Taipei, Taiwan, have similar events, said organizer Carol Leigh.

Presented in conjunction with the San Francisco Sex Worker Film and Arts Festival, the class Wednesday at an erotic art gallery was billed as a way for working girls and guys to polish their skills in a supportive atmosphere.

It was the first time the biennial festival, begun in 1999 to showcase films about and by sex workers, included a session devoted to how to maintain a satisfying career.

“My own personal experience has been negative and positive, as with any job,” said Kymberly Cutter, 36, a mother of two from Tucson who returned to prostitution two years ago to boost her income and regards it as part of a journey in “personal self-discovery.” Her children, ages 7 and 9, know what she does for a living, she said.

Participants who stuck it out for the whole day received diplomas certifying them as G.S.W — graduates in sex work.

This is not.

Interestingly (and ironically), I got the link for the cool thing (the article) from the uncool website (LJ community). In other news, this is an interesting read. So is this.

The Slang of Exotic Dancing

By jthserra

Throughout history as exotic dancing evolved, a unique and colorful
language has emerged from within the industry. Some of this language
has even filtered down to the customers. In any work of fiction or
non-fiction relating to exotic dancing or striptease the use of the
industry related slang in dialogue and description can add dimension to
the work.

Exotic dancing or striptease has a long history in America dating back to a performer called Little Egypt who danced the hootchy-kootchy
dance in the 1890s. Of course the practice dates back to Biblical times
with the Dance of the Seven Veils performed by Salome for King Herod.

Performances have come a long, long way since these early performances,
though it is considered that the artistic zenith of striptease occurred
during 1930s and 1940s, with H. L. Mencken inventing the word ecdysiast
as a fancy word for stripper. Through the years, striptease has
diverted from the artistic forms to more shocking forms of dancing and
exhibition, although some of the more raunchy live sex shows available
today are nowhere near as bad as some of the shows in San Francisco at
the turn of the 19th Century.

A complete listing of every bit of slang used in exotic dancing could
probably fill its own dictionary, so I will try to highlight a few of
the more interesting terms, along with a brief description, history or
usage guide. Much of this slang does reflect the age it was used in, so
make sure the slang is appropriate for the era in which your story is
based. Again, while this listing is by no means comprehensive, any
story relating to exotic dancing or the industry can be enhanced by the
proper usage of some of these terms.

bank – Money.      Usage: Hey, there’s a big bank in that corner
over there.      Translation: Hey, the guy in the corner has a bunch of

circus – A live sex act performed for a paying customer.     
Usage: I told him he could have a circus for a hundred bucks.     
Translation: I told him he could watch a live sex act for a hundred

d.j. – A bouncer.      Usage: If that guy doesn’t sit down now
I’ll be sending a d.j. over there.      Translation: If he doesn’t sit
down I’m sending a bouncer.

farm – An uninhibited show, as found in cities where there are
loose views on what may happen in a strip show. This is the opposite of
cold where there are more restrictions on what a stripper can do.

gadget – A g-string, mostly used in the 1930s and 1940s and is
not recognized today.      Usage: Yeah, she stripped down to her gadget
in no time.      Translation: Yeah, she stripped down to a g-string in
no time.

give it away – A performance with inadequate tips.      Usage:
Damn this crowd, they want me to just give it away.      Translation:
Damn this crowd is cheap.

groper – A rude customer, though dancers now will usually just call them “asshole” or “pig.”

house girl – One of a group of performers at a club who work without any billing. The performer getting the billing is the feature dancer.
     Usage: She’s just a house girl now, but if she keeps at it, I can
see her as a feature dancer one day.      Translation: She has some
talent and with a little work she may get a billing.

lap dance – A dance where the performer bumps and grinds on the
lap of a customer, who often masturbates. Most lap dancing is done with
the back towards the customer.      Usage: I paid her extra for a lap
dance.      Translation: I paid her for a one on one dance, where she
will grind herself against me.

princess – A dancer with a prima donna attitude.      Usage:
Save your presents, this one’s a princess.      Translation: Don’t tip
her, she’s just a prima donna.

rope trick – A dance where the dancer rubs her crotch on a rope.
     Usage: This one does a hot rope trick.      Translation: This
stripper does a uninhibited dance with that rope.

spooge – To ejaculate. Though strippers use a lot of terms for
ejaculation, spooge is a favorite in the San Francisco area.     
Usage: Just as I was finishing my dance he spooged.      Translation:
Just as I was finishing my dance he ejaculated.

t-back or t-bar – A tiny covering for a dancer’s
genitals, less skimpy than a g-string.      Usage: Yeah, she stripped
down to her t-back.      Translation: She stripped down to that little
thing covering her genitals that is slightly less skimpy than a

yoni – The female genitals. This is a term from the Kama Sutra
that many dancers prefer.      Usage: That g-string barely covers my
yoni.      Translation: That g-string barely covers my genitals.

These are just a few of the colorful terms
frequently used in exotic dancing.


1.)Dalzell, Tom – The Slang of Sin Merriam-Webster Incorporated, Springfield, Massachusetts 1998.

2.)Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia, htt p://

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An interesting thought: was Mary Magdelene THE Sacred Whore? I mean, Mary Mother of God is THE Virgin, so could the other Mary be THE Whore?

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