… It’s not what you think. This post is actually a rant about sexism in rap.
Here’s the music for “I like to fuck” by Hot Rod, featuring Tila Tequila and Beau Dozier. I’m not writing out the lyrics, but if you don’t want to listen to the music (which are definitely not safe for work), you can read them here.
I’m pretty lax on the whole “sexism in rap” thing. I don’t go looking for bad music to rant about. In fact, I kind of like Eminem‘s rap/hip-hop/music, and I have, more than once, argued that his lyrics (violent, homophobic, and misogynist as they are) are just lyrics. I’ve said, “Well, at least he’s rapping about those things and not actually doing them, right?”
But this song? The chorus is almost pleading, but the verses are… gross. In the chorus, Beau Dozier says, essentially, “It’s not personal, baby. I make love to you, but I only fuck hos.” Meaning: what I do with these other women (the “hos”) isn’t anything to be concerned about; when I have sex with them, it doesn’t mean anything. It only means something when I have sex with you, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to stop having sex with them. Hot Rod, in the verses, talks about how he likes to have sex (“faces down, asses up”), with whom (“if she black, if she white…if it’s loose, if it’s tight”), and what the women he has sex with should (not) do (“I give good dick away and make ’em wanna say ‘Daddy’… You ain’t gotta take your panties off; just move ’em to the side.”). During the bridge, Tila Tequila says, “I like to fuck sexy boys, sexy girls… suck cock ’til I hurl… I get dirty with it; I so filthy.”
Look, people. I like me some sex, just like the next lady, but this is gross. From a purely objective point of view, and putting most of the “eww” factor aside, if this song is really just about fucking, then why doesn’t it have more about fucking guys in there? It’s because Hot Rod is straight, right? Wrong. Tila Tequila, a woman, talks (briefly) about having sex with women, so it’s not the straight/gay thing. In fact, it’s sexism. The men in these lyrics are in control—goading the “girls” to sleep with men and telling them it’s no big deal when men sleep around. “All [the] girlfriends” are simply sex objects; things to have sex with, and that’s all. Beau Dozier even says (in the chorus), “I go put my dick in everything.”
The creators of “I like to fuck” obviously have some deep-seeded fears about and/or hatred of women, and I can’t even pin-point the starting point of all the misogyny because it’s in the whole damn song. They (the creators) are helping prolong the idea that women are important for only one thing (sex) and they’re not worth listening to, looking up to, or being around in any other endeavor. Plus, the images in the song feed the idea that all women should be whores and amazing in the bed (who really likes sucking cock until she hurls?). Women are not around primarily (or secondarily or tertiarily) to please men; it’s just not like that, but this song makes it seem that way (or, at least, that it should be that way). There was only one mention of a female orgasm (Tila Tequila says, “squirt like the wipers on my hot car”), but even that was only in relation to things that arouse men.
I don’t need my roommate’s 16-year-old son (not to mention my roommate himself) calling me a “ho” just because he thinks that’s normal, or looking at me the next time I walk by like he wants to eat me. And all this just because I have breasts and a vagina. Kind of sad, isn’t it? I’m not even really angry. I look at that kind of attitude and behavior and find it completely pathetic. It’s just… sad.
Hat tip to NoLittleLolita.